Day 3: So far, so good.

Sundays I try to go without getting on the internet at all, so as to better enjoy my day of rest. Only checking Facebook on Wednesdays and Saturdays has naturally lead to less internet time in general, turns out. I'm okay with this, mostly because that means that FACEBOOK consumed most of my time online. Blech. (I promise I'm not trying to demonize Facebook. This is a personal journey, not an agenda I'm trying to force on everyone.)

Monday was a good day for me:

This is my dearest sister's sunhat. I wore it while I hung clothes on the line to dry. I had a great time! It was kind of therapeutic...and I think that the clothes may have dried faster than in our drier. Isn't her sunhat cute?  I take no credit on the cuteness of that hat, it all goes to Jalaena. (I love you, Jalaena!)

Here's my sister and Henry, they were hanging out while I hung the clothes. What a picturesque time. Oh, did I mention that we really like blue? 

I have been more productive and restful. I've done much less comparing of myself to others, and have enjoyed sending the intentional email. I've had projects piling up that I'm going to be starting. I've had more time with my own thoughts -- sometimes it's great, sometimes it's not. 

So as not to trick you into thinking that leaving this Social Media stuff has made my life perfect, here are some "Real-Mommy" Moments.

Real Mommy Moments:

• We had to order pizza on Saturday night because I didn't do any dinner prep throughout the day.
• Yesterday morning I was being uber-productive. I went outside and worked on the computer while Henry played in the backyard. I don't remember the order of events exactly, but he turned over the water table getting himself all wet, then he ran to me and wanted me to pick him up (a reasonable desire being a cold, wet 20 month old). I wouldn't pick him up because...well, because he was wet! I made him walk inside with me so we could change him into dry clothes. 
• At a different point, he was stepping on my backpack, and in the act of getting my backpack out from under his feet, I knocked him over. He started crying HUGE crocodile tears, and I felt terrible. I picked him up, held him close, and apologized. Oh yeah, and I think all of these were due, in part, to Henry messing up my "productivity streak". Thankfully, I had a heart check moment, I said a prayer to be more understanding and patient with sweet little Henry. Things got better between us. :)
• There were dirty dishes in the sink all day yesterday. 
• Oh, I went WAY over grocery budget, and domestic budget, this month. It seems that Sprouts store being within a 5 minute walk has been detrimental to us. What can I say, I love Sprouts. But in the future, I have to discipline myself to stay within our budget. 

Why the Real Mommy Moments? Because I want to remind you that I am real, and that just because I am limiting my Facebook and Pinterest time doesn't mean I've found myself in a domestic utopia. I find myself reading blogs of various mommy's and I wonder how they do all that they do, and inevitably feeling terrible about myself. 

If you're interested, here are links to two articles that talk about Pinterest and Instagram. I'm going to try to post things like this so you can hear from others who are talking about this as well. 

I'll have a blog-post about the Pinterest one in the future. 

Alright, readers! Thoughts? Anything you'd like to see on here? I'm up for suggestions. 

Day One: Always wanting to hit the f button

**First off, sorry for the generalization in the first post. I said "we" too much, instead of "I". I do have some friends who use Facebook for good: keeping up with friends from afar, discussing news articles, current topics, sharing pics with family, etc. I think that's great!  Also, I would like to add that I do not have a smart phone. I've gone back and forth as to whether or not I should get one. I'm still deciding.

Oh, and I didn't want to exclude anyone when I said stay-at-home moms might struggle more. I was just thinking in terms of not necessarily being super-committed to something else (but what am I talking about, hello children?). For instance, a full-time worker has commitments from 8-5. There still might be the occasional Facebook check every once in a while. Full time employees, what do you think?**

My typical internet usage throughout the day looks like this: open Google Chrome, hit g and go to Gmail, then hit f and go to Facebook. I might go back and forth between the two for a while, it just depends if I'm anxiously waiting for someone to message me back on either site. --Sometimes I'm incredibly impatient when I message someone about something I'm excited about. I want to hear their response as soon as possible! It's a little ridiculous, really.-- Occasionally on Facebook, I'll link through to an interesting article that one of my friends has shared. Sometimes I'm incredibly disciplined and am able to close out of both. Sometimes I'm incredibly undisciplined and will scroll through the home page for a while, go back to Gmail and see if there are any new emails, then go back to Facebook and check the newly refreshed home-page-news-feed-importance.

I had to stop myself every time I got online yesterday. It really is a habit to go through that cycle. Sometimes I will go through it a lot. On days when I'm hanging out with friends, or have things to do outside the home with Henry, I don't go through it that often. Those days I'm usually much more content and happy, though it could be the combination of not going through the comparathon and of getting out and about (something I enjoy).

As far as inconveniences go, there were a few that I experienced:

• I had to email a friend to ask for another friends email address so that I could start some planning for an upcoming event. 
• I started an email chain as opposed to a message chain. 
• I had to plan ahead and write down an address to a baby shower I was attending.

Not too bad, really. Let's not forget, this was after only after not logging on for one day. The break from Saturday to Wednesday might allow for more inconveniences.

As far as benefits, there were several!

• I was able to play more restfully with Henry and his friend Lucy.
• Once my emailing was finished, there wasn't much else online I had to do, so I would close my computer allowing for a more restful heart. 
• I felt more calm and content.

Honestly, there were times where I wanted to check my Facebook to see what people were up to. My sister, Jalaena, was on her account and I definitely wanted to read things over her shoulder. There's such a pull to it. I want to be in control of Facebook, I don't want it to control me. 

What's your usual online routine? If you work full-time, do you still find yourself checking your phone?

A Personal Journey

Hi! I'm back! Maybe just for a little while, and I'm okay with that.

I have been having several conversations lately, and reading several articles, that lead me to the conclusion that Facebook and other forms of social media are not making us any happier. Rather, they are making us more lonely, more jealous, more discontent with our own lives. I have had that experience, to be sure. If this is true, then why do we continue going back to Facebook, Google+, Instagram, etc. Why do we feel naked without our smart phones? Why, after being away from the internet for a while, do we feel a nagging need to go check all of our 'noties' (notifications).

As a stay-at-home mom, I feel like the temptation to be on social media is perhaps even stronger than for other individuals. Our little ones are having a bad day, we feel stressed and lonely, and we just want to see what other adults are doing. Cue checking Facebook. Cue scrolling through our homepage seeing all of our 'friends' doing wonderful, adventurous, non-mundane things: traveling overseas, having a home that looks just like the Pinterest pictures, whose picture-perfect children who are so well-behaved, the list goes on. We are in the midst of a comparathon and we begin to feel worse about ourselves and our lives, and we're even more unhappy than when we first were checking Facebook. It's a vicious cycle. And it is one that I can give into SO easily. Too easily. It's second nature for me. Ugh.

Obviously, some of you wouldn't care one bit if someone's home looked like Pinterest, so just change my example to one that fits you. If you're a student, maybe everyone's college life just looks so much better than yours. If you're job-hunting, everyone seems to be landing dream jobs. If you're single wishing that you were not, you might find yourself seeing status updates about engagements or new relationships. Discontent, anger, jealousy, can all settle in too easily.

People do not share reality online. They share highlights. The best parts of their days. Granted, you do have some people who vent through status updates, but on my home-page, those are very rare.

So now what? What am I going to do to battle this? I'm going to restrict myself to only checking Facebook on Wednesdays and Saturdays. I'm going to blog about the journey here.

The gist of what I'm hoping to discover, whether or not Facebook is worth having, is being talked about in other places, I am not the first to think of this. I just want to see how it affects my own life. And maybe, just maybe, I can encourage you to evaluate how and why you're using social media.

Please feel free to tell me what you think, and if you're going to try it out.

Disclaimer: I do not think that all social media is evil. I may or may not leave Facebook entirely after this. Admittedly, I will probably feel like I'm missing out on all the newest news of my friends, and there will probably still be things that happen in my normal life that make me feel jealous, envious, and angry. Facebook and other social medias are not the problem, they just give an easy and quick way to fall into those feelings and habits.

Here we go!